Feb 8, 2013

And He Wonders Why He's Single...

I don't get hit on very often, but when I do it's usually a blog-worthy experience whether for good or for bad.  This past Tuesday was no exception.
So I'm watching J and his basketball team at practice when all of a sudden I hear a voice behind me say "Where do you work?"  I turn and see an average looking brotha staring at me waiting for an answer.  I give him one.  "Hmmmm...you look familiar", he says.  "Trying to figure out where I know you from."
Dude, please.  You know you don't know me from Adam.
Predictably, the conversation turns to my accent, which leads to the "Is your husband from England too?" question I've heard more than a few times before.
He proceeds to suggest we go for drinks some time. When he notices I'm not jumping at the idea, he reassures me "Look, I'm not trying to be your man. I'm trying to be your kick it buddy."  He holds his hand out for a fist pump with a huge grin on his face.  I leave him hangin.
First of all, what the heck is a "kick it buddy" and why would he feel the need to make the distinction?  Second, why is a 30+ year old man making such a proposition?  At his son's basketball practice, no less!  I asked him why he felt the need to make the distinction between being my man and being my kick it buddy.  He was unable to provide an answer that I could consider satisfactory.
There are a few other issues I had with this dude's approach, including but not limited to the fact that I'm 99.9999% sure I saw him sporting a wedding ring the first time I saw him at practice a few weeks ago.  He claims he and his wife have been separated for two years.  I'm not buying it.
At this stage in life, kick it buddies should not be an option.  We're too grown for that, especially if we have kids of our own.  I have plenty of great friends, male and female, I can call up to go see a movie, get something to eat and just talk with.  What would be the purpose of having a kick it buddy at this point?
Needless to say, I did not take homeboy up on his offer.  A word to all the single men out there...don't ever make such a suggestion to a grown woman with kids.  And women, don't let a man come at you like that, no matter how fine he might be!  Your time is valuable and he needs to respect that from day one if he's going to be a part of your life. 


  1. Jill, some dudes just have no clue smh

  2. Jill I am with you on that. Amen indeed. Not all men are like that I am glad to say but they are few and far between. I bet he thought he was all that and you would be 'putty' in his hands. :). He was dealing with the wrong woman.

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